What to Do When You Are Alone for the Holidays
Being alone for the holidays is a significant challenge for many people. Holidays often conjure family images, warmth, and sharing of a particular time. However, loneliness can be overwhelming when you have no one to share your holiday time.
Many people, however, miss the point of what holidays are really about and what makes them unique. Holidays are not about what you GET – they are about what you GIVE. Many people are under the misconception that the joy of the holidays is about what you receive rather than about what you share. Our hearts get filled with love when we give and share passion rather than from getting love.
This may seem like a paradox. So many people spend their time with others attempting to get love, attention, and approval, thinking that this is what makes them feel happy and worthy. But getting attention from others to fill ourselves is like eating chocolate when you are lonely – it works for the moment, but then you need more and more. Eventually, it becomes an addiction.
What fills the emptiness is the giving of love. So if you are alone over the holidays, the question becomes, “How can I give love in ways that will bring me joy?”
Below are some suggestions for sharing your love and caring over the holidays:
* Gather toys from friends and store donations and bring them to children who would not otherwise have toys. You can find these children through schools, churches, and other organizations.
* Find a women’s shelter in your area and help create the holiday there – preparing food, decorating the tree, and spending time with them. Last year a friend of mine organized a number of her local markets to donate food over Christmas to the local shelter that housed mothers and their children who had left abusive husbands. She got to know the mothers and children and received great fulfillment in providing them with an abundant Christmas.
* Spend time with older adults in nursing homes, especially those with no family. Spending time caring about another lonely person will go a long way toward taking away your loneliness!
* Volunteer to help serve food to the needy over Thanksgiving and Christmas. Many churches and other charitable organizations welcome volunteers to help in food lines over the holidays.
* Locate a retreat center near you with a special event over the holidays and share your time with other people who are also alone for the holidays. For example, last year, a friend of mine, who had just left her husband and was alone for the first time with no family around her, went to a beautiful retreat center on the East Coast. Twenty people gathered there to share Thanksgiving. There was a wonderful ceremony of gratitude that she said filled her heart. In addition, she enjoyed sharing time with new people.
* Find a church, temple, or 12-step group in your area with special events for singles over the holidays. Go to these events to share your caring with others, which you can do just by being interested in listening to another person. We all love being listened to and understood, and all of us can give this to another.
One of my all-time favorite movies is “A Christmas Carol” – the one starring Alistair Sim. I love the scene on Christmas morning when Scrooge realizes that no time has passed and he has the opportunity to give. He feels such joy at the prospect of showing that he can hardly stand it! He dances around and stands on his head and laughs and laughs with the joy of giving! One night, he went from being a miserable older man concerned only with getting to a man now focused only on giving, and he became a joyful person.
While you might not have money to give, we all have caring to give. You have no idea how much you might enrich your own life and another person’s life just by giving your time, attention, interest, smile, and understanding. Whatever your life circumstances, you always have the opportunity to provide your care. You will discover that sharing your caring with others, especially over the holidays, is a profound way of caring about yourself.
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